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Charlotte's avatar

This is so painfully honest. I think anyone who’s lost a friendship without it officially ending can relate to this. It hurts when someone who used to be your ‘everything’ gradually makes you feel like a footnote. You’re not wrong for missing the version of them that let you in completely. And you’re not wrong for wishing you still had that.

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Mars Writes's avatar

i love how you put it, "gradually makes you feel like a footnote." Exactly! It's like you slowly sink to the bottom, you become an afterthought instead of the first person they think of and it's so sad and heartbreaking... thank you so much for your kind words.

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Pearl's avatar

God, writing about friendships HURT. I felt it in my throat reading this, and you're way stronger than me. Please remember that the right people will always choose you and never let you question it <3

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ayn 🖤's avatar

This exact situation happened to me earlier this year and it was like a stab to the heart. Everything you said was so on point— even how our siblings are the same age.

I miss her a lot. We don’t talk how we used to anymore, and I feel like she’s grown out of me sometimes.

This really made me feel seen and it resonated deeply within me. You’re brave for sharing this story, I know it was probably hard <3

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Mars Writes's avatar

thank you so much for your kindness! and i am sorry you went through this! It truly is heartbreaking to drift apart and outgrow each other, wishing you new fruitful friendships although it won't stop the hurtful pangs of loss you feel.

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Rock Bollinger's avatar

It's heartbreaking when friendships drift. It's maybe even more painful than if there was some big explosion that ended things. I know I don't know your friend, but I found myself disliking her. That's almost certainly due to my own history and nothing to do with her or you. I'd encourage you to keep making the effort to meet new local people. That's something I'm attempting for myself after 13 years of self-isolation and lying to myself that I didn't need any local friends. It was all just fear. You write beautifully by the way. My inner literary critic's heart leapt for joy reading a few of your phrases.

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ramblingrose's avatar

hiii i love ur writing and wld love if you get a chance to read my piece from today!! im trying to connect w writers i like their writing styles 💌💌💕💞

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